I know its confusing sometimes il try to make it simple.
first dont QQ about being killed most of the times it isnt personal, players just want fun and hone their skills
second if u get ganked alot join a big guild that can back u up, this is fun cause some just want that to lure out guild vs guild
third be happy and grateful u have a choice here on EPW ^^ u can push on pk button, some private servers have forced pk and u will spends hours on those server just to reach a npc like demon or sage culti because some pk/tw guilds just want fresh warm innocent meat to munch on